Bondage and Restraint

Bondage

Bondage is very much a state of mind. It is Zen like in its nature giving both the person who is binding and the person who is being bound space and time to travel, a journey within one’s self to contemplate. Trust between the two the common denominator and the base upon which all is built. That and patience as some rope work takes an extraordinary amount of time.

It takes planning, preparation: spiritually, mentally and physically. One must visualise what one is seeking in the end result. It becomes a form of meditation, when practised, it is second nature. The hands almost separate from the body and you are a spectator watching the rope weaving its way around a body. Becoming one with it. The knots, loops and ties being separate thoughts, the rope a central stream of consciousness from which those thoughts escape.

I am very aware of the comfort or discomfort of the person being bound, though discomfort can at times also distract. This depends totally on what I wish to achieve, how I wish to extend or explore the outer or inner limits. I know by the time I have reached the end I am drained spiritually, mentally, physically.

Hopefully, the person I have bound is fulfilled. Filled with a calm, a restfulness having made discoveries of self, found answers or questions to be answered. Thus the exchange. One to the other. A circle of which each is one half. Very much the basis of my belief in Dominance and subMission. One cannot exist without the other.

The Art of Bondage is just one gift I bring and share with love. This message was relayed to me by a wonderful very experienced submissive, back in my novice days, who began weeping uncontrollably once bound. I was instantly upset, fearful of her safety and questioned immediately if she wished to be unbound. She tried to smile through the tears welling in her eyes, running down her cheeks and…thanked me. I asked “What for?” She replied “Total release”. Bondage & forms of restraint were definitely going to be part of my play.

Its boundaries are limitless, all sorts of methods not just governed by rope, a pair of chopsticks and two rubber bands works just fine. The hooks on the elasticised strap constrain the nose emphasising the tongue bondage. No single part of the human body is immune from bondage. There are an infinite number of fibre types, indoor or outdoor applications, its only common threads being, patience on the part of the person being bound and knowledge on the part of the person doing the binding. It takes time and a great deal of practise to master some of the knotting techniques, realise their applications, their faults. Living on a farm my instruction in roping methods started at a very young age, progressed through the cubs and scouting movement, to camping, treking and then professionally as a truck driver. There are a number of great books available, most are listed in my knotting books section, simply a matter of finding a source of instruction and then doing it. The practising of tying is something you can do almost anywhere and you never know who may actually show an interest.

I have long thought bondage execution demands a setting, location, a feel and a theme of some nature. The use of music to enhance or strict quiteness, the use of scent, atmosphere (candles, bright light, darkness). The very choice of rope type – smooth, coarse, soft, prickly, hemp, silk, nylon can add very much to the scene. Location, quietness, setting, theme not a great deal of rope work involved but this is compensated by the remote feel one would gain, the smells and sounds of nature but I have to wonder just who carried the cross.

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